Monday, February 4, 2013

"Asked by a female reader: "Why do women fall in love with men who cheat, are distant, are emotionally unavailable... or just the wrong kind of man?" My response: Many women seek validation and determine their worthiness from *precisely* the wrong man. If she can get him to "love" her... she will feel important... valued... worthy of love because "he changed for her." If she can't... then she's not surprised... and "all men are the same." Many, *many* times, this is due to father/daughter relations... where the father is distant and/or unloving, and she seeks his approval — but never gets it. So... she seeks it elsewhere later in life... to no avail. Even if the father/daughter relations are good, once this pattern is established it's very challenging to break out of... because it's familiar... and familiarity—no matter how bad—is oftentimes better than learning something new/different. Familiar is predictable... while change is the unknown."-Charles J. Orlando



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