"If they are not treating you right, stop blaming them. You decide your worth. You demand their very best. Bottom Line: If you don't want to be a doormat, get off the floor!"-Charles J. Orlando

"It's not their job to love and respect you. It's YOUR job to love and respect *yourself*. From there, others have no choice but to follow your lead... or risk being without you, as you will never settle for second-best if you value *you*."-Charles J. Orlando

"The Double Standard: Men with beer bellies—who are seemingly allergic to treadmills—expecting women to be built like Victoria Secret models."-Charles J. Orlando

"Reality Check: If you're still responding to your ex's text messages and phone calls, you aren't ready for your next relationship."-Charles J. Orlando

"Focus on your accomplishments, not your failures. Count your blessings. Celebrate the life you’ve been given."-TDJ

"Why do some people fall in love over and over again with those who are emotionally unavailable? Two main reasons: 1) Lack of self- esteem, and they get/build their sense of self-worth by feeling "needed" by an incomplete person. And 2) Ignoring red flags and blatant warning signs... instead making excuses for poor treatment and *choosing* to settle for someone's second-best efforts. The way out of this destructive pattern is to see *your* part in things and identify the behavioral pattern *you* are exhibiting. From there, not being attracted to the wrong person will start to fall into place. (Easy to say... takes time to do.)"-Charles J. Orlando

"Let's all observe a moment of silence for the idiotic ex who played games, screwed you over, manipulated and/or cheated on you, then deleted you on Facebook — and are now secretly stalking you from their friend's profile."-Charles J. Orlando

"The Harsh Truth: If you find yourself selecting/falling in love with people who treat you poorly—over and over again—it's not them... it's you. You need to uncover the pattern in your selection process to identify why you are attracted to unavailable people. From there... you can start making some changes into allowing the *right* type of person into your life."-Charles J. Orlando

"Yes, I know... gas prices are at an all-time high. But, filling the tank—no matter how much it costs—won't count as part of the date."-Charles J. Orlando

"To those who try and try and TRY to keep a relationship together: A relationship takes TWO people to put in effort. If they won't join you, maintaining a relationship all by yourself won't "make" it work out. Giving up on a bad relationship doesn't make you weak; it means you have enough self-esteem and strength to let it go... and that your wants and needs are valued... by YOU."-Charles J. Orlando

"A man's charm can only gain a woman's interest... it's his honor, sincerity, and follow-through that keeps her with him."-Charles J. Orlando

"Life is short, time is fast, no replay, no rewind so enjoy every moment you can."-Everyday Life Lessons

 

 

"She's single because she refuses to change her relationship status for someone who falls short of what she deserves. Knowing her self-value she's chosen to preserve a spot in her heart for a real man, someone mature enough to understand that loyalty, commitment, and honesty is a priority and not an option."

"The woman who is serious about guarding her heart (Proverbs 4:23) protects herself from getting emotionally connected to a man until his character has proved him to be godly. She refrains from flirtatious behavior, talking about marriage too soon and spending excessive time alone with him. She observes his character and makes an objective decision without her heart being involved. She studies Scripture to know what a godly man looks like and commits to the Lord that she will not cultivate a relationship (in her head or in her life) with anyone who does not match those criteria."-GGW

"Happiness and joy do not come from the outside. They come from within. They are a conscious decision, a deliberate choice, one that we make ourselves each day we live. Decide to be happy!"-Joyce Meyer

For the everyday pain singles face while they’re waiting for a spouse, I am reminded of two principles for living. First, regardless of whether God blesses me in this way, I am called to trust Him. In a very painful and confusing situation, Job said: “Though he slay me, yet will I hope in him” (Job 13:15). Second, God is all-powerful and my lack of a spouse has nothing to do with His ability to provide. Not only that, but He wants good for me. Consider 1 Corinthians 2:9: “However, as it is written: ‘No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love Him.’”-Suzanne Hadley Gosselin

"If the guy you're dating doesn't seem to be completely into you, or you feel the need to start 'figuring him out,' please consider the glorious thought that he might just not be that into you. And then free yourself to go find someone that is."-Greg Behrendt

Somewhere out there,
beneath the pale moonlight,
someone's thinking of me and loving me tonight.
Somewhere out there,
someone's saying a prayer,
that we'll find one another in that big somewhere out there.
And even though I know how very far apart we are,
it helps to think we might be wishing on the same bright star.
And when the night wind starts to sing a lonesome lullaby,
it helps to think we're sleeping underneath the same big sky.
Somewhere out there,
if love can see us through,
then we'll be together, somewhere out there,
out where dreams come true.
"Somewhere Out There" - An American Tale

"Facing the truth means going beyond just admitting we've done something wrong; it means not making excuses for that wrong behavior."-Joyce Meyer

"The truth is that our desires shape our lives far more than the truth. I mean that what we want can cloud what we see, what we hear, how we pursue and what we pursue. If we want something bad enough we may be able to convince ourselves that the warnings we hear have some other plausible explanation. It is a very difficult thing to be hungry and to be told that what looks edible —is poison. Being hindered by God may be unpleasant, may be painful, but it is the surest sign that we are loved. God just may introduce obstacles or obstructions in the path you choose. He may look to hinder a relationship, to prevent or stymie the relationship, and He does all this in love."-Marriage Missions International

"There are 10,080 minutes in a week, and you couldn't use at least one of them to call me?"

"That beautiful moment when you realize you're ready to let go and your heart is ready to heal."-AH

"There are times when life strikes its blows. There are things I cannot control. I can, however, control my attitude and perspective. I can choose to live in victory, instead of being a victim. I can also choose to bring hope, encouragement, laughter, and joy to those around me. So, that's what I try to do... because that is how I want to be remembered."-Doris Little

 

"To be kept strong, a relationship must be attended to regularly, like a plant. It doesn't need constant attention, but it does need regular attention. If not, it will wither after awhile but can be revived. If neglected too long, then no matter how much water you put on it, or how much care you show, it's just not coming back. Always make time for those you love."

"Start everyday with new hope, leave bad memories behind, and have faith for a better tomorrow."-Unknown

“Learn to let go of the past and recognize that everyday won't be sunny. And when you find yourself lost in the darkness and despair, remember: It's only in the black of night, we see the stars, and those stars will lead you back home. So don't be afraid to make mistakes, to stumble and fall, because most of the time the greatest rewards come from doing the things that scare you the most. Maybe you'll get everything you wish for. Maybe you'll get more than you ever could have imagined. Who knows where life will take you. The road is long and, in the end, the journey is the destination.”-One Tree Hill

"There are moments in our lives when we find ourselves at a crossroad, afraid, confused, without a roadmap. The choices we make in those moments can define the rest of our days. Of course when faced with the unknown, most of us prefer to turn around and go back."-One Tree Hill

"Never question your own significance; nor define yourself by who is around you; nor seek status by who you can associate with...because...people cannot make you more than what you already are."-TDJ

 

"You fool around with so many different kinds of folk that you don't even know who you are. You have become such a spiritual chameleon and assimilated into so many different environments that stripped of all your environments, you have no identity. You wear peoples' names on your clothes because you have lost your name. Dropping names and calling names, trying to impress people with other peoples names because you don't know who you are."-TDJ

"It isn't what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about."-Dale Carnegie

"God is well aware of how much we need Him. We're the ones who need the reminder."

"When you pray, realize His dominion is from everlasting to everlasting. There is nothing going on in your life or in this world that is out of God’s control. When God says you are blessed, you are blessed."-TDJ

"I came to encourage somebody... don’t move, don’t jump, don’t quit... stand right there! If you hold on, everything God promised you will meet you in the place of your pain. Show me the place of your greatest pain, and I’ll show you the place of your greatest promotion. Show me the place that tried you to the breaking point, and I’ll show you the place of your prophetic destiny."-TDJ

"Walk in confidence and not arrogance. A confident person knows their true value and worth and holds their head high, while an arrogant person assumes their value and worth to be more than what it is and turns their nose down on others."-Angela Cole